How to Break Up With Your Married Sugar Daddy and Forget About Him
When you're dating a married sugar daddy as a sugar baby, it's a roller coaster of highs and lows. At some point, you get tired of the situation and want to end the sugar relationship. Breaking up is often difficult, even if we really want to and know it's the right thing to do. It can be especially difficult to let go of an affair for fear of not having enough understanding and patience. Apparently, there's also a pervasive fear that you'll break up with your sugar daddy when he actually leaves his wife. A sense of rejection, loss, or even abandonment can be triggered by an affair. It feels like an exorcism, reminding you of all the ugly thoughts and problems you may not be aware of.
Many sugar babies have dated a married sugar daddy and often wonder, how in the world am I going to end this relationship and move on? Now, I hope the following tips will help any sugar baby in this situation embark on a happier, safer, freer path to healthier relationships.
Before you embark on a breakup, be sure to have a frank conversation with yourself and then ask yourself:
Was it a wish to attract his attention and compel him to make a decision with me?
If the answer is yes, you need to stop immediately. In that case, he'll just assume you're lying and sooner or later you'll be back in trouble. Be honest about what you want to achieve. If it's to influence or even force him to make a decision, or at least play a game, re-evaluate your motivation. Consider the big picture and see if this is the way you want to spend your time, because it's a slippery slope with no dignity, and no one is worth it. If you're serious, here are some tips to focus on taking care of yourself.
Remind yourself that he's wasting your time and affection.
Yes, you might habitually think that breadcrumbs are good enough for you, but the truth is that maintaining a healthy relationship with a man who is only with you and puts you at the center of his life feels very different from your current fragile "relationship." Whatever you are prepared to accept, you will get what you want. You deserve more than sugar daddy crumbs. You deserve love.
Be strong. Be a strong sugar baby, be firm in your decision. If you really want to break up and you're tired of it, he should stop sweet-talking you. So far, one of his strengths in this relationship has been persuading you to do (or not to do) certain things. He can't this time. You can't give him a chance like that.
Decisive. If you can afford it, go away for a few days or a week, take a break, or spend time with friends and family. Turn off your phone and let your loved ones know where you are so they (and you) don't worry. But don't ever have anything to do with your sugar daddy.
Think about the woman he's with. You might think of his wife as the one who takes away your chance with your sugar daddy. In fact, she, like you, is a person with feelings, strengths and weaknesses. Put yourself in her shoes and think of how you would feel if you were her. No matter what he tells you about why he's with you, the cold hard truth is that he chose not to leave because he chose (and wanted) to have the best women in both worlds, and greed. You feel compassion, and self-compassion, when you stop seeing her as an inconvenient, obnoxious obstacle. Blaming her for his infidelity and you for why he didn't leave is ignoring the bigger picture of the real problem.
It's about you, not him. If you focus on him, he can make excuses that he meant it at the time, but he probably won't do it later. Once you calm down, you'll make some unlikely promises. Yes, you broke up because he couldn't give you what you needed, wanted, or deserved, but you also broke up with him because you were better than he was. You're not the sugar baby he influenced anymore.
Tell someone you trust. You'd be surprised how many sugar babies operate in secret. This has a huge impact on sugar babies because it's incredibly isolated. Do as he says to you. The fact that all questionable relationships are based on shame and secrecy complicates your dilemma. But you'd be surprised -- a lot of people have been there. There will always be someone in your life who will sympathize with you and support you to leave. So don't be afraid to ask someone close to you for help.
Don't stay where he expects you to be. Don't stay where he expects you to be. When I talk to other sugar babies, they're almost always on edge, whether they realize it or not. After all, it was his way of keeping himself from getting caught. That's how he fits you into his schedule. You have to break the rules. Let your phone go directly to voicemail or the screen. When he calls you don't drop everything just to answer his phone. Instead of standing watching TV and waiting for his call, go shopping. If you think you might be tempted, change your phone or block his email address. In a word, be your own master and don't be controlled by others.
Know that you are not alone. You may be shocked to discover that your situation is not unique. They didn't leave their spouse/partner because you weren't good enough. You've been fine. You don't have to settle for crumbs. Yes, it's hard to end a relationship, but by saying goodbye to fear, procrastination and guilt, you're taking steps to prepare for a new sugar date that suits you.
Saying goodbye to the wrong sugar daddy will bring you the right one. Don't be afraid to leave. Join some of the trusty sugar daddy dating sites now and find some certified sugar daddies to start dating!